You’re ready to start choosing your wedding party, your closest of friends and family that will stand up for you at the altar as you say your vows to the love of your life. Now, there are definitely some aspects that you should consider before popping the question to be a part of your wedding party.
Put some serious thought into who you want to be apart of your wedding party.
Once you’ve asked someone to be in your wedding party, it’s really not fair for you to change your mind after. So while it may be tempting to ask all of your best friends to be in your wedding party as soon as you start planning your wedding, I suggest taking your time giving this some serious thought. Do you see yourself being just as close to this person in five years as you are now? If you’re on the fence about asking someone to be in your wedding party, consider how reliable you think the person will be when it comes to meeting deadlines and assisting you with your wedding tasks, if you are unsure how much you can rely on them, I suggest leaving them off the list.
Include Brothers and Sisters on both your side, and your fiances side.
Even if you’re not particularly close to his sister or her brother and vice versa, siblings will be around for a huge portion of your marriage, and chances are, you’ll become closer over the years. If you come from a big family and you can’t possibly include everyone, draw the line at teenagers. Instead, make them a part of the ceremony by asking them to be Ushers pass out programs or seat guests. Traditionally, it’s ladies on one side and guys on the other, but who really follows all the rules anymore and have them stand on either side of the aisle.
Consider the size of your wedding.
You can have as many (or few) bridesmaids and groomsmen as you want, it’s your big day. The average wedding party size is eight—four bridesmaids and four groomsmen. Use that as a guide when you decide. Depending on formality, go larger or smaller. For a small wedding with around 50 to 60 guests, have no more than four, but for a larger wedding of, say, 150, you could go upwards to 12 on each side if you want to. Just remember to keep in mind: More isn’t always merrier in this case. If there are a lot of people you want to include in your wedding party but just can’t, give them another role, such as an Usher.
With that being said, remember, just because you’ve been a bridesmaid in 16 weddings in the past 5 years doesn’t mean you are obligated to include those girls in your wedding party. As long as you choose close friends and family members who you know will support you during the planning process and take on the many duties of being a member of your wedding party you should be just fine and completely happy with those that you. Be sure to notify members of your bridal party as soon as possible once you have made your final decision on who you would like to ask to be in your wedding.
Major participants in the wedding party include:
- Maid of Honor (or Matron of Honor)
- Best Man
- Flower Girl
- Ring Bearer
- Ushers (optional)